My friend recently asked me if I had any Domme/Sub experience. I responded, “Nope, I domme myself.” This conversation led to her asking, “Is there a link or will a simple Google search work?” At that point I realized that I needed to make this post. She said she’d read it!
I grew up in a household that did not talk about sex. I had to figure everything out on my own and I’ve been in good, ok and effing horrible relationships. I realized over the pandemic that I needed a break from dating apps to heal myself. Pre-pandemic I was in survival mode and had convinced myself that I needed a man in my life. I realize now that is another thing society taught me that I need to unlearn. Single women are the happiest demographic out there and I want to help make us even happier without ever touching you or looking you in the eye.
Do I have your consent? Great! Let’s go!
If you have never heard of D/S relationships, I recommend watching “How to Build a Sex Room” on Netflix. This show has everything from vanilla to a seven-person poly sex dungeon and everything in between. I’m still not sure where on the spectrum I fall there, but that is part of the journey. Discovering what you like and pleasuring yourself in the best way.
It took me years to figure out how to orgasm. I faked it until I made it. Now I know how to turn myself on and can make myself cum. If you can’t do that yet, start there. Find out what you like and what feels good to you. Make the time to do it at least once a week. If not, domme yourself to do it. Find a hawt nickname to use when you are talking to yourself. Sometimes you just need to cum and if you don’t make yourself you aren’t taking care of your body.
Once you know how to make yourself cum you can start edging. One of my favorite parts of the D/S relationship is teasing. Forcing pleasure and then taking it away. You can do this to yourself. Domme yourself when you are masturbating. Tell yourself not to cum yet. Stop when you are about to climax and beg for it. You don’t have to say it out loud but it helps.
Another aspect of this is making yourself cum multiple times. You can make yourself wear a vibrator around the house until you cum a set number of times. Wear a vibrator while you watch TV and increase the level every 5 minutes. Put in a butt plug and do chores around the house until you cum. Try these out but they are just ideas for you to explore if you enjoy dominating or being submissive. Or you are a switch and you like both.
While I wrote this with women in mind, I think this could be applied to any gender that enjoys being Dominated. Would love some confirmation on that!
But for now I’m off to put on my lace boxers and Domme myself.
The Happy Hedge 